It's been a hard few weeks for both of us for various reasons. We needed to spend time together, in a neutral place over some good food and wine, something we used to do regularly, our Saturday date just the two of us. Walk into town, have lunch, share a bottle of wine, talk over our week. We have let this slip, life takes over sometimes.
As the food is savoured and the wine supped we feel ourselves relaxing, talk of work, family and home. Then he said something to me that stopped me in my tracks, shocked and angered me, does he know me at all? "You're a glass half empty type of person" Wait....what? Me? No no no. You have me all wrong. Why do you think that? It niggled me for the rest of the day. I kept bringing it up again and again. "You just are" he said. No further explanation.
I have always thought of myself as a half glass full type of person. Why would he get that impression? I mulled it over, thought it through. Could it be because I think the world is going to hell in a handcart? We are destroying the planet and intent on killing every living thing on it, especially each other. That people are full of hate and intolerance. Maybe that does make me sound a bit negative, but it's all true as far as I'm concerned. All you have to do is listen to the news to confirm my thoughts. I don't try to bury my head in the sand, I'm no Pollyanna.
However........ I'm not one to sit back and except it. I do my bit and know that there are many people out there who like me are not willing to let it happen without a fight. We fight for equality in our own ways, sign petitions write letters. Challenge intolerance and hate. Try to protect our environment. Yes hearing of the terrible things that are going on in the worlds knocks me off my feet sometimes. It takes a while to dust myself off and come back fighting, but I do.
The news is full of the terrible events of the 7th of July 2005, when people full of hate set out to kill as many as they could. It would be easy to give in to the feelings of despair for this world and its people, but then you hear from the survivors who have taken this terrible experience and turned it around. Fought hard to make something positive come from it.
On a local level a young man with learning difficulties on the way to the shop to buy sweets was attacked by a group of other young people, humiliated and pushed to the ground. Now he is too scared to go out on his own. My heart breaks once again. The following weeks are filled with news of people donating money for a holiday for him and his family, presents, a ride on a motorbike with a local motorcycle club. It restores my faith in my fellow beings on this planet.
The photos are from a new cafe we came across in Truro yesterday. The owner spent 10 months refurbishing the place, turning it from a betting shop into a positive nurturing space. It has been created from reclaimed, recycled, foraged pieces by him and an amazing carpenter. Lovingly put together to create something beautiful in this fucked up world. Here's their story Inner Tide I hope it succeeds and doesn't go the way of many other businesses in the City competing against the multi-nationals.
So am I a 'half empty' type of person or a 'half full' type of person because I continue to get back up and fight for what I believe in? What type of person are you?